negativity
Prompt
Write an essay on "negativity" in my voice, drawing on 3 ideas from Awareness - Mello_et_al, Effortless - Mckeown. Take a clear position. Don't summarize.
Material (3 reviewed ideas)
De Mello's four-step program insists that any negative feeling toward another is an illusion living inside you, not out in reality, so the cure is never that they must change but that you identify the feeling, see it is yours, and recognize that when you change everything changes.
![[Awareness - Mello_et_al#^ref-31054]] ![[Awareness - Mello_et_al#^ref-21553]] ![[Awareness - Mello_et_al#^ref-50907]]
De Mello observes that when you fight something you are tied to it forever, giving it exactly as much power as you spend fighting it, so the more you resist a feeling or a person the greater the power you hand them.
![[Awareness - Mello_et_al#^ref-37992]] ![[Awareness - Mello_et_al#^ref-28842]]
McKeown frames a grudge as emotional armor we hire to protect ourselves, which actually leaves us more fearful and less able to trust, so surrendering it is not an equal exchange but a coup, since it frees not the culprit but us.
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